Individual support for your challenges
How can counselling help me?
Counselling can help you to cope with stressful situations, identify unconscious patterns and behaviours, strengthen your resources and support your understanding of why you feel and react in ways that may seem out of alignment with who you are or what you really want.
Below you will find an overview of several common issues, that can derail your everyday work-life, friendships and relationships and leave you feeling unappreciated, unheard or seen, confused and alone.
People Pleasing, Low self-esteem
Do you often find yourself agreeing to things that you don't really want to do, second guessing your decisions, asking others what they think, rather than trusting yourself ?
For example, your boss asks you to work on your day off, you hear yourself saying yes but internally you are thinking... I was going to get my hair done, he does this all the time... but what choice do I have, he's my boss. Do you struggle to accept compliments or feel too anxious to choose your outfit, without checking what others are wearing first, getting more anxious and agitated if they don't respond.
Relationship Difficulties
Do you find yourself arguing all the time or walking on eggshells in your relationship, feeling like if you bring up a small issue, it will turn into a huge argument and upset your partner, maybe things will get better if you just try a little harder or stop bringing things up?
Sometimes it can be difficult to know if we have valid concerns when our partner struggles to hear us without becoming defensive. Bringing an issue up can feel like it's too difficult and the arguments it causes can leave us feeling like it isn't worth it, or like we're the one with the issue.
Insecure Attachment
Every time you meet someone it starts off so great but once you let them get closer to you, you start to feel like they are taking over and you begin to fear losing your identity, making you pull away?
You meet someone great, you connect on every level, they seem to really like you, then all of a sudden it feels like they are pulling away and you don't know why?
For example the guy that you've been seeing said you should go away together for the weekend soon but he hasn't mentioned it since, when you mentioned it the other night he said he's really busy at work at the moment and now you feel like you've done something to upset him or make him change his mind.
Fight, Flight, Fawn, Freeze
Find yourself snapping at people or reacting excessively to small situations, having to apologise or make excuses for yourself, Feeling like you need to avoid stressful situations or potential conflict, physically running away, distancing yourself or unable to communicate. Saying "its no big deal" when something actually bothers you quite a lot. Feeling immobilised, disconnected from your feelings, surroundings or memories?
Sometimes small things can trigger big reactions from us and we don't know why. We might try to ignore big thing's, saying we're okay and then find ourself resenting the person or situation, or doing nothing in the face of fear or danger, these reactions can be very confusing for us and those around us and can leave us feeling misunderstood.
Low-mood, Depression
Do you find yourself feeling low, or down much of the time, avoiding activities you used to enjoy, crying often without knowing why? We all get down at times and this is a perfectly normal response to stressful life situations around money worries, relationship issues, the loss of a pet or loved one, however if this state continues over a prolonged period of time it can begin to affect us on a physiological level which makes it harder for us to bounce back to our previous selves.
When this happens, feelings like guilt, shame and confusion can keep us from talking to our friends and family about how we are feeling. Not having an answer to their questions about what's wrong? not wanting to socialise with them because you can't find anything to be happy about and feeling like no one will understand, can keep us stuck and alone.
Anxiety, Overwhelm and Fatigue
Do you find yourself getting really anxious on Sunday, stressing about going back to work on Monday or avoiding social events as much as possible because they take too much out of you and leave you feeling tired for several days. Do you always seem to be coming down with some cold or virus?
The world we live in is very fast paced and can be extremely stressful on our nervous system. Evolution happens over thousands of years and our nervous systems can't keep up with todays life-style pace and technology. If we don't have a good self-care routine and good self-regulation skills. It can leave us feeling overwhelmed, lethargic and generally under the weather without knowing why. Polyvagal theory elements combined with talking therapy can support nervous system recovery, helping you feel like you again.
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Telephone: +447764290925
E-mail: rebecca@thejunipertreetherapy.co.uk
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